12 Ways to Intentionally Grow as a Person

plant is in hands Who do you need to be to succeed with your business and take it where you want it to go a year from now?

Who do you need to be to write boldly, openly, and transparently on your blog?  To put yourself out there in a bigger way so you can be of service and reach more people?

A couple of weeks ago I attended InfusionSoft’s Elite Forum as part of the team from The Marketing Mentors (I’m their Director of Marketing).

At the InfusionSoft Elite Forum: Adam Urbanski, Clate Mask, Bo Urbanski, Scott Martineau, Me

At the InfusionSoft Elite Forum: Adam Urbanski, Clate Mask, Bo Urbanski, Scott Martineau, Me

And I had one of those “light bulb” moments when Clate Mask, InfusionSoft’s CEO, shared (paraphrased) that he invests in coaching and focuses on personal growth because he realizes that who he is today isn’t who he wants to be in 12-18 months to lead his business forward and reach his goals.

Great thought, right?  You’ve got to become the next, better version of you to be able to grow your business to where it’s going.

So how do you make that happen?  What do you do to intentionally GROW?

Looking at who I am today and who I was a year ago, I’ve grown in a lot of ways.  And I am very aware that to reach the goals I’ve set for myself I need to continue to improve myself.

It’s not about changing who I am but becoming more confident, more grounded, and more myself than I ever have been.  It’s about continuing to learn and gain expertise and achieve mastery around the skills I need.

Here’s what I’m doing that’s working.

This isn’t a “do these 12 things every day” list — it’s more things to be aware of and focus on.

1. Work with a coach consistently (enough said here, right?)

2. Be active in a mastermind group and learn how to ask the right questions, ask for the type of support you need, and give that support for others

3. Have someone in your life as accountability who you are transparent with, who sees a bigger vision for you, and who has permission to be straight out honest in helping you grow — and have open conversations about goals and dreams and who you need to be to make those reality

4. Read the right books to expand your mind and challenge your preconceptions

5. Actively continue learning and be intentional about the skills you learn and areas you study to achieve expertise and mastery

6. Learn new skills to move out of your comfort zone — it will both challenge you and get your brain back into that creative “beginner” mode

7. Positive messages IN by being aware of what you hear and allow in your mind

8. Surround myself with the right people who you can model for success, and pay attention!

9. Choose to let go of or create stronger boundaries around the behaviors and situations which bring only drama and negativity

10. Actively seek to identify the blocks that you’ve put in my way or am allowing to stop you and find the tools you need to equip yourself to move past those as you become aware of them

11. Become aware of your own ego and learn how to separate yourself from those voices, tell them thanks for trying to protect you but they need to go sit in the corner, so you can make more conscious choices in how you behave, react, and respond

12. Create space, time, and permission to reflect on where you’ve come from and what you’re already improving, accept who and where you are right now, AND (maybe most importantly!) actively envision who you want to become

It’s less about checking these 12 things off on a daily basis thing and more about intentional continued awareness… “I’m working on this… this is changing… I am aware of this…” and some happen some days, some don’t but I’m working on all these areas and taking steps forward to grow as a person so my business can grow and I can be who I need to be to reach my goals.

How about you? Things will always change. So choose to grow through it all.


  1. says

    Hi Michelle,

    These are important ways. I think point no. 10 and 11 are the most overlooked one. These two are personal. Sometimes people can’t see what happen in the front of their eyes but catch a single dot across the ocean. Often times we are to busy to identify the blocks and too lazy to mind our own ego.

    Thanks for this post
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  2. Pat says

    Thank you for this inspired post, tho one I wish I had written! Look forward to your 30 day blog challenge.

  3. Daniel says

    Nice post Michelle, I love that quote that Adalia John brought to note. There’s truly never a point in your life where you’re static. It’s either you’re growing or you’re gradually shrinking.

    Keep it up.
    Regards, Daniel from http://danieluyi.com

  4. says

    Thank you so much for this article. They might sound like common sense on the surface but when you dig deeper, they’re extremely powerful points. I caught myself thinking, “Oops, I need to do that!” with many of them.
    Time for some self-reflection …
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  5. says

    Although I have always been addicted to learning new things, I have to say consistent intentional learning in a laser focused way has made a big difference for me over the past 12 months. When I look at what I have managed to achieve over the last year, I feel like I totally wasted the previous 15 to 20 years. It’s making frequent trips outside my comfort zone that has had the biggest impact.

    Hanging out with the right people, who have made it in life and have experiences to share has also helped a lot. As Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” The trick is to choose wisely.

    I also find helping other people who are struggling with similar problems a good means of consolidating my knowledge and building expertise. As Einstein rightly said, “If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t know it well enough.” Combining this with reading the right books is the best recipe to become an expert in whatever one is learning.

    Thanks for sharing these inspiring ideas.
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