I have a confession...
Yesterday I almost shared a post with you titled "Sometimes Life #*&$%@* &#*@$ and There's Nothing You Can Do About It."
I don't use strong language very often. And even the censored version above is PG so get any other words out of your head, okay? The fact that I was tempted to write that tells you a lot about where I'm at.
There's always a lesson and we should make it a point to seek those lessons out. So looking for the positives (or benefits, always the benefits, right marketing friends?) I realized three things...
1. I finally found that line!
Over the years I've blogged, I've lost count of how many times I've been asked, "What's too personal to blog?" or "What topics should I avoid?"
And I hate it when I can't answer a good question. Now I can!
Personally I've had trouble coming up with the answer because I tend to share pretty openly here and find that most of the challenges I deal with, you can identify with and it's encouraging for you to know you aren't alone. I lean towards sharing them after I'm through them and can give the "other side" perspective and support. But sometimes I share it when I'm in it.
I've shared some pretty personal stuff with you over the years.... how terrified I am of public speaking... that the voices in my head totally freak me out every time I hit publish on a blog post... how I get nervous when I email my list... the time I had a meltdown at a business event and threw all the hotel pillows around the room... my guilt around coming out of a cult and fear of failing again... and that the moment I got serious about figuring out how to build a business back in 2001 was when I sat on the floor of an apartment crying and holding my toddler who was crying because we didn't have food and he was hungry. And somehow even after sharing that, you're still here, reading. You might have wondered if I had a "line."
I don't separate "business" and "life" like many do. Sure, this is my "business" blog - but it's MY blog. Who I am and my life journey is such a big part of my business that I can't even begin to separate that. I realize that doesn't work for everyone.
Here's my answer: When you hit the line, you'll know.
2. That line is a really personal thing.
I'm not ready to go into what I'm dealing with right now publicly, even though I could easily draw out the parallels between personal life and business, share how it's affecting my business, and talk about that ever-challenging line of family/work balance.
I've seen others blog about it and make it work. I applaud their bravery.
So my line is only mine. I can't tell you what you shouldn't share. You'll have to think it through and trust your own intuition.
Mine says now is not the time. Later. There's a bigger story writing itself that I have to be patient for.
3. There's always something you can do about whatever is happening in your world.
One of the things I love most about blogging (and writing in general) is the clarity it brings. Putting words down on paper forces me think through what I'm writing.
Why in the world would I ever write "there's nothing you can do about it"? I know better than that!
Sometimes things get really, really tough and scary. But we've always got choices.
I can wish I were stronger, and that doesn't change where I'm at right now. So I choose to feel, learn from it, and come out stronger and wiser on the other side.
Talk with me... What's your line? Have you found it yet? Or are you cool with sharing everything? What's the craziest or most personal thing you've shared on your blog (feel free to link to a post or two from your blog with your comment)?